All parents have at least once experienced discomfort in a store because their child wanted a toy “right now.” Often in such situations, parents face tantrums, throwing things, and crying in the store in front of strangers.
Taken aback by this situation, parents often do not know how to react, so out of embarrassment they fulfill the child’s whims or resort to various threats that are unpleasant for onlookers. People often then comment on the situation negatively. The child then uses various persuasion methods such as “Dad, buy me,” “Mom, please,” “I really want this,” “You want me to be sad.”
What to do?
First, do not pay attention to other people’s comments; do not let their opinions and remarks affect your style and method of parenting. You must face such situations and gain experience in order to solve these problems. Buying the toy will only make things harder for you. Children are too young for money to be a measure for their arguments and desires. Some toys they want are beyond the household budget, and often they are not necessary.
You should find a way to explain to the child why it is not necessary right now. Every parent knows the child will quickly forget the toy, and it will end up like a pile of others you constantly organize. In such situations, the child thinks that the toy is everything they want and the most important thing in the world.
To avoid such situations, you can use the following tricks:
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Keep the child busy during shopping so you find all the things on the list as quickly as possible and return home.
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Explain that toys cannot be bought every day.
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If they want that toy, they need to clean up their current toys and find a new place for them.
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If they want a new toy, they will have to give away their old ones — an idea they will probably not like.