In today’s world, we’re seeing a shift toward equalizing the roles of men and women. Moms are increasingly taking on tasks that were once considered “dad’s work” — and vice versa.
In the past, the messages parents sent to their children were often based on gender. Boys were expected to be strong, persistent, and focused on intellectual development — in short, to “be a man.” Girls, on the other hand, were allowed to be emotional, gentle, delicate, and warm. From a modern perspective, it often seemed like: “A good girl is obedient, and a good boy is capable.”
Despite modernization and increasing gender equality, cultural background still plays a significant role in parenting. Cultural heritage is learned from early childhood. While biological factors determine a child’s sex, gender identity is more closely tied to cultural and psychological identity. That’s why parents — consciously or unconsciously — often raise boys and girls differently.
Children of all genders need love and attention. Girls are often taught empathy through play — caring for dolls, a sibling, etc. — preparing them for the future role of a mother. Boys, on the other hand, are typically encouraged to take on protective roles and are often told they “must not show weakness.”
Many parents focus on building confidence in boys, because they are expected to be strong for the responsibilities of adulthood. They are told they are smart, brave, and capable. However, this emphasis often neglects their emotional side, which gets suppressed due to beliefs that showing emotions is a weakness. This can lead to difficulties in recognizing and expressing emotions later in life. A common phrase heard in the upbringing of boys is: “Don’t cry like a girl.”
Girls, on the other hand, are often encouraged to express their feelings and receive emotional support from parents when facing problems. Yet they’re also expected to be both equal to men and responsible for children and the household.
Despite the differences in raising boys and girls, there are also differences in raising children of the same gender. Every child is an individual, and we are all different. Without that diversity, the world wouldn’t be such a beautiful place.